April 10, 2019 1 min read

6 ways to help your child overcome the fear of failure

1. Change YOUR attitude about failing

Be mindful of your own responses to mistakes and failures.
Talk about what you’ve learned and be willing to pick yourself up and try again.

Encourage and celebrate your child’s mistakes as learning experiences.

6 ways to help your child overcome the fear of failure

2. emphasize effort, not an ability

Emphasize effort and the process itself over the actual outcome (ability).

When they struggle, discuss specific strategies that might work next time.

6 ways to help your child overcome the fear of failure

3. demonstrate unconditional love

Make it clear that you love your child unconditionally, even when
they make mistakes or use poor judgment.

6 ways to help your child overcome the fear of failure

4. CONDUCT THE “WORST-CASE SCENARIO” EXERCISE

Start by grabbing a piece of paper so you can brainstorm together
with your child.
Ask them questions like: “If it all goes wrong, what’s the worst thing
that could happen?”

6 ways to help your child overcome the fear of failure

 

 

5. HELP THEM FOCUS ON THE SOLUTION

Discuss what actions to take and the consequences of these actions.
If you are discussing a problem that has occured and you are trying to

diminish the anxiety level about the event, let them not focus on the event
itself, but rather on the ways how these consequences can be avoided in
the future. Ask questions like: “What went wrong?” and “How can we fix or
prevent this next time?”

6 ways to help your child overcome the fear of failure

6. have conversations about the connection between success and failure

Talk about success using the “iceberg analogy”.
Explain that when you see successful people, you only see the tip of the
iceberg. You don’t see what’s “under the water”; failures, rejection, discipline,
persistance, effort and never giving up.

6 ways to help your child overcome the fear of failure

 

"Hatred never ends hatred, only love does." -M. Ghandi


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